Do Your Promises Take Over the Commitment You Made to Yourself

Do Your Promises Take Over the Commitment You Made to Yourself
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Joan_Silva]Joan Silva

Do you find yourself exhausted, working too many hours and still not getting things done? Are you constantly behind on your to-do list and the list keeps growing? Did you forget to add you to the list?

The ever growing to-do list. It seems it is never done and each day gets longer and longer.

What if I told you this is the way it is supposed to be? What if your to-do list is never supposed to get done? Is that as shocking to you as it was to me when I first heard it?

What was revealed to me was to just relax because you are never meant to be done. Period. Instead, we are meant to grow, thrive and expand. We are here on this planet to create, express and share our divine gifts. It’s all about our creative juices. And as you create, your list grows. You have new ideas, desires and wants… the list grows. You think of new ways to play… the list grows. You have a new business idea… the list grows.

Okay, you get the idea. And yet, the list is daunting and let’s face it, you still have tasks to accomplish in the day or all hell breaks loose somewhere. After all the kids still need to eat, the dog still needs to go for a walk, the car needs gas, groceries to buy, bills to be paid and the clients need attention.

AND have you ever noticed that most of your to-do list is about someone else or promises made to something besides yourself?

Yep, I get it. There are things that MUST absolutely be done today. How do we handle all of this and still remember to add ourselves to that list? Not to mention, what about friends, family and connection? Where do you fit that all in?

This very topic came up for discussion with a client in a recent coaching call. She had been on an extended business trip where, as a healer, she helps special needs children. Her work is in high demand as she has had great success in helping children with cerebral palsy gain more movement in their lives and children with autism actually talk for the first time. She travels all over the world and the United States to help those families who need her healing touch. This is very gratifying work for her and she gives her all when she is working with each child.

However, her list of things to get done grows. As she travels and helps others, her own list doesn’t get done or is put on hold and in the process she seldom, if ever, gets on that list herself. When she returns home she is drained and overwhelmed by the list of things she must accomplish and get done.

As you may have guessed, she doesn’t find the time very often to fit in friends and family. Her time and energy is given over to the powerful healing she does for others. In the process she has given over her time, energy and talents to others and seldom to herself. She calendars clients but not herself.

This is very common with women and even more so for creative, entrepreneurial women. We are so busy doing it all for everyone else that we bypass ourselves.

So what do we do instead?

There are three things that I find work for me… that is if I remember to take a moment and actually engage with these ideas.

1. Take a moment and notice your attachment. There is a reason you are running around doing everything for everyone else and not for yourself. Stop and take a moment and allow the real reason you do this to come forth. Often it is an attachment to some sort of outcome and most times it falls into one of three areas… The first area is a deep need to be loved and accepted. The second, is a desire to feel safe and secure. And the third, is low self esteem. Once you notice the deeper reason you can practice being unattached in those situations which frees you to let go and have a different experience.

2. Let go of the desire to get to the destination. It was an eye-opening revelation to me that I was so focused upon the end result that I was not enjoying the journey along the way. I realized I was meant to enjoy the journey not just get the list done. That made life way too hard along the way. It was time to let go of the attachment to my “to-do” list and learn to just enjoy the ride. In other words, enjoy the journey and stop focusing on the destination!.

3. Put yourself on the to-do list. Have you ever noticed you do not put yourself on your list? Here’s what I have found… you will never enjoy life to the fullest if you do not consciously, purposely and strategically put yourself on your to-do list. Yes, take out your calendar and make an appointment for yourself.

One final thought and then I hope you’ll rush to your list or calendar and add yourself to it…

I didn’t share with you that the concept of “you never get it done” really does free you up to just enjoy the journey. It allows you to relax and let go. After all if it never gets done then it’s time to let go of the tight reins you have on the outcome and just simply enjoy the ride.

Oh, and as to my client… she emailed me today and said her client cancelled their appointment today and she had the rare opportunity to just pamper herself. She was emailing me from a local coffee shop, sipping and enjoying!

Joan Silva is a spiritually based MONEY Counselor devoted to empowering men, women, couples and small businesses with the tools to live a freedom-based life of their dreams. You can find out more at http://yourmoneydream.com

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