Rejection Hurts and Then It Changes Your Life
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Marquita_A_Herald]Marquita A Herald
Try thinking of it this way… no rejection, no growth.
What if everyone said yes to you? Okay, I can hear you now – you’d like to give it a try just for a while, especially with your spouse, parents or boss. But the truth is if everybody agreed with you… if you experienced no rejection you’d have no reason to try harder… to grow as a human being, nothing to challenge and excite you, and frankly after a while it would probably be a pretty boring life.
Through my illness I learned rejection. I was written off. That was the moment I thought, Okay, game on. No prisoners. Everybody’s going down. ~Lance Armstrong
What do you want out of life?
If your ultimate goal is to grow, be successful and have a brilliantly fulfilling life, but you’re doing everything possible to avoid any form of rejection or discomfort, then aren’t your actions in conflict with your goals and dreams?
What if, from this day forward, the word “no” didn’t stop you anymore? What if every time you were rejected you became stronger, more powerful, and more resilient? What if the greatest success strategy in the world was not to go for yes, but to go for no?
Rejection doesn’t have to debilitate you. In fact, it can empower you to achieve a whole new level of greatness you never dreamed possible.
Do not take rejection personally. There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing, and sometimes a rejection has nothing to do with us at all. So if you get turned down, don’t waste valuable emotional energy second guessing the reason, assuming that you are a failure or that no one likes you.
Think positively. Sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise and may send you in a whole new direction or provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen! Sometimes a rejection is nothing more than the other person’s opinion… let it boost your confidence and steel your resolve! Remember, what you tell yourself is what you will believe, so tell yourself that no matter what; you are going to get through this and succeed or move on to something better suited to you. Above all, don’t try to ignore or bury fear of rejection. Instead, condition yourself to take action in spite of the fear.
Listen to the rejection carefully. Pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will tell you if you have a second chance or not. Try asking follow-up questions to understand why you are being rejected and get creative in coming up with an alternative solution. If you were not accepted because of lack of experience, you can look for ways to get more experience. Sometimes “No” just means you haven’t yet given the other person enough reasons to say “Yes.” Other times a “No” simply means no. You have to rely on your intuition to sort out which is which.
Everyone experiences rejection. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that everyone experiences at some point is a reality check! Of course, “embracing rejection” doesn’t mean giving up easily. It simply means fully accepting the notion that you intend to decide your own worth rather than being controlled by other people’s responses.
Try and try again. Believe it or not, rejection is one of the best growth opportunities, as long as you learn from the experience. If your response to rejection is to blame someone else, you’re probably not going to get much out of the experience. However, if you focus on what you could have done better, you’re on to something important.
Even the most successful people in the world get rejected. To become all that we are capable of being, we need to grow and on occasion experience some discomfort. What if Dr. Seuss had given up after his 27th rejection and not tried one more time?
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